I dunno...she has stated that she wants to work in it...
Typically, if it smells like dog schidt, looks like dog schidt...it's probably dog schidt...
You are only hearing one side of the story though....
What also jumps out at me is that he laid a hard boundary about her talking with friends about this.
What friends ?
If it isn't the EA friend, then what is so different than him talking with you about it ?
The vacation arguments....???
Here's what a WAS would think....
SHE wants and maybe expects things to be different than what she wanted to get away from....
HE wants things to go back to normal....
A WAS/MLCer will never return to a situation they were trying to escape from...
So I dunno....
I always try to lead these situations toward trying to reconcile, rather than not...
DBing says to applaud the positive, from this day forward....
IF it blows up in his face ??
Yea...would any of us be here and be different without that catalyst for change?
I would coach him to see himself more clearly, and his role in wanting to see why she was planning the great escape, rather than coaching to ring a bell that can't be UN-rung....
Be a true friend to him , and tell him the truth. He has things that he could do differently too, and shoulders his 50% of this.
