It is all bull$hit, she is in the entitlement mode. She is throwing tantrums like a little child. It was not a false alarm, not by a long shot. The only reason she agreed to MC is that she will have an excuse. "I tried" she will say, "but it just confirmed that we should part" will be the second half of the statement.
I bet I know who the "friend" is she isn't allowed to call. You friend did the right thing setting boundaries, but I am afraid it is too little too late. She's off the rails and the $hitshow is about to start. Your friend can't do anything to revert the course, he should focus on himseld, the kids and GAL, the wife will do as she pleases, there is no stopping her.
I hope I am wrong, but I see all the classical signs.
