Tell yourself every day that this may be the last day of your marriage. Prepare for that possibility
That's something I've probably lost sight of, but need to try to keep in mind. Right now we're on a trip with the kids that has helped summon many nostalgic summer thoughts to my head. Really not helping with detachment. Like, at all.
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Don't get caught up in what she's doing. Decide your breaking point and follow through even when it's hard.
I needed this reminder. Not sure what the breaking point officially is and/or when it will present itself. Like I told Elbereth above, as of now, I would prefer not to be the one to file for D. Quite possibly would be a gift to W, and I don't know if I want that on my conscience - that I pulled the trigger on breaking up the family. BL42 would agree.
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Also don't worry about moving out (for either of you two), you're not there yet.
Thanks for this thought. It's stressful to consider, but you're right. In fact, given our family calendar circumstances the rest of the summer (as well as the board harmony on *not* being the one to move out), it's hard to fathom when any separation might germinate, unless something crazy happens with W.
