I will continue to disagree wholly. This isn’t like he used the N word and that was wrong so she said something . He will know that she is holding on to information that could cause some serious destruction to the family. D knows the consequences of that and what could happen. Her life blows up and her father resents her. It’s not a “character building “ experience. It’s a horrifying experience to have that power.
IMHO you are giving her too much power here. These are her dad's choices. She does not hold the power to blow up his life/her life... or for him to resent her. That rest solely on the shoulders on her dad.
It is not the information she holds that will cause the destruction of the family... it was the choices HE made. HE is to blame here.
It is unwise for Little G to live a life where she fears the response of her parent. You know how damaging that is in the long run. Help her see the lies in the fear. Help her to see her needs above her dads.
This is how she feels. This is the way she believe her dad will react. I keep reiterating that anything that becomes of this is because of her fathers poor choices and not anyone else. Even if she told him she knows, and anyone else did the matter , whatever happens is because of him, and absolutely no one else.
The truth is, I think she is going to want to say something eventually. But I’m letting her do it on her timeline . I’m going to get her the IC so she can work through this and maybe feel comfortable telling him. And not so scared. It’s been barely a week. And she is I the stage of wanting everything to be “normal”
I am not going to tell her if she should tell him or not. I’m going to let her come to the choice on her own. She needs time. I’m going to give it to her.
Trust me. I hate him right now. No one is more upset about him not having consequences. No one is more upset than me watching him get the unconditional love of his daughter , having his wife. His umpteen family vacations, and his mistress. I don’t want him to get away anything . But it’s not for me or her to give him the consequences. When she tells him, I want it to be because it’s what she needs to do
