I’m personally glad the cat dragged you in. Welcome!
A whole different view from the other side of divorce and into loving again that we don’t usually see here. And the loss of two loves that will never leave your heart.
I think many of us have asked ourselves “what would hurt more , losing the one we love, not by their choice, or losing the one we love by a decision they made “ really, we are powerless over both, in the end.
Guilt. You know me and guilt know eachother very well. I feel guilty about much all the time. Feeling guilty about choices or feelings, even if my actions are coming from a good place and out of love.
Well, I know that K wouldn’t want you to feel guilty about any feelings you had at during such an awful difficult time. I know she would want you to feel how you feel. And I sure as heck know your feelings were because you loved her so dammed much. I know she knew that too.
As far as obligation. Well, I believe we do what we are obliged to do out of love. That is love. Everything we do out of love isn’t desirable or easy, but because we love, we do it.
And I think it’s a great idea to not make any major changes for a year . Take the time to get acquainted with yourself here on earth with K not physically beside you and in your soul. Because I know you will get clarity on what you need to do.
