WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - 1 Year Divorced (7)

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Appreciate all the feedback on my friend. It was a bit of a false alarm in a way. Based on the way he reached out I was bracing myself for some significant negative news (confirmed PA, separation...etc.), but it's not as bad as that.

He told me they're in MC where she's said she's dedicated to working on it, she to him she stopped communications with her EA, and things seemed better than a few weeks ago. So that's potentially good. However, he also said they fought a few times on vacation to the point her mom asked what was going on in the condo and his W asked him to stop the car and let her out once (with the kids in it), plus she told him she's mad he won't let her talk to the "friends" she wants to.

So...based on those fights and the stories we've all read on this board I'm not convinced she's being honest about being all-in to work on things through MC or to stopping EA communications. But I also don't want to see everything through the lens of my sitch and the board stories and over concern/coach him either. I told him to listen/validate/empathize with her rather than logic/reasoning/fixing, and to hit the gym and do things for himself.

Hopefully they work through this. Hopefully he's not being too weak or naïve and underestimating the seriousness of the situation. But time will tell...