Might I suggest the BetterHelp app as a in interim IC solution? I turned to it myself. However, the match they gave me wasn’t a good one (at least on paper…not the right background, experience, etc) so I did the auto request to change it. They gave me six to select from and I selected someone better and I’ve been seeing her ever since. I found that the cost was less than many of the counselors I had researched. And maybe your medical coverage might cover a few appointments? It might do you good to talk to someone even if just to vent and get some short term support. Plus, they charge weekly, so you can actually get more than just one session a week (if you count texting and other means on the app). Another idea is to reach out to universities or other places where they train counselors as you might be able to receive counseling for free or low cost while they are doing training…these are managed by higher level professionals so you will still get good counseling.

I agree with Traveler…the gym is very important and you should not give that up if you can manage it. You must take care of you. I know you are also considering obtaining more child support as well, so maybe BH as a short solution might hold you over until you can get more financial support. If you can manage it, I’d still move forward with that process as you really need the financial help even more…especially if things continue to get more complicated. But I also understand how hard this can all be when you are already so stressed and full of anger. First and foremost, take care of you. Hang in there. Hugs to you…and little G.


Me 52, H 56
T10 M7, 2nd MR for both
2 Step Sons (19 and 21)
BD: Fall 2020
D finalized: July 2022
XH Married AP soon after D day.