While both are inappropriate, I'd agree with you the latter is a deal-breaker and I'm guessing you'd agree with me that the former can be worked through.
I think anything can be worked through when there is regret and remorse. There very rarely happens here in the beginning.
I do appreciate that qualifier, LH19 - "in the beginning." Still not sure what I envision is the ideal result for me, but it helps to read that.
