Thank you, Greenman. As with Elbereth, I also see some similarities in your experience to what I'm currently living.
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all the things I did wrong, tattoos, working out, partying, lacking career goals (my fault), telling me I should move out. Wanting body improvements done, which I shut down thankfully.
Yes, very much so. Not so much on the partying (yet), but everything else. How did you shut down the body improvements part? That train is leaving the station on my end (W has not only a consultation for breast augmentation set, but an appointment date in a few months as well). I'm pretty sure she has gotten a Care Credit account in her name only, but at the moment we still have a joint checking account.
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I did not leave but did shared nest for a while. Alternating weeks
Is this another term for in-home separation? Or where a common apartment (for example) is rented, and one parent is in the home while the other resides in the apartment, taking turns? W is very interested in this idea after hearing about it from some newly separated friends. I have mixed feelings about it and believe at least one poster on here recommended against it. On the other hand, it wouldn't completely involve me vacating my own home. It's not a long-term solution but perhaps equitable for a time.
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In the end you just have to be good with what you did for you and the kids and maybe it works and maybe you move on.
Yes, the other day I thought I was set to begin figuring out the beginnings of a separation process with W because I felt we were both getting there, but today I just don't know. Ugh. But I do appreciate your thoughts.
