Thanks, Elbereth. Your situation has some close similarities to mine.
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Raised his two kids as my own
Replace "his" with "her" and you have my experience.
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For me, the only choices I had were to move on from the MR or to remain in a relationship with him and his AP.
Starting to feel like this for me, though the AP is over the phone - texting and whatnot. No signs of slowing or stopping from what I can tell. And yes, as BL42 has said, the depth and scope of the EA may be more or even PA.
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The thing with the MLC part is also that the whole process takes a long time (if it ever resolves).
Yes, this is a concern of mine.
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Maybe it is mostly his MLC personality, but unfortunately, as time goes on, I struggle to know if the person I married was the person I knew.
Completely agree. She's still a good mom (at this point) and throws me some crumbs without being hateful or totally impossible to live with, but the person I fell in love with and married is virtually gone.
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You do sound a lot stronger than I was at the beginning of my journey.
Thank you. I am conflicted and trying not to be the one to pull the trigger, but I don't have complete trust with the finances.
