Thank you. It's very clarifying hearing your opinions. I think it's really, really tough because overall the ex comes off as a really kind person, and in general he is - but he hasn't been kind to me..
This resonates with my situation so much. In general H is a sweetheart, he helps me with kids, cooks, cleans, does groceries, helps family and friends, but then he gaslit me and blamed me for him having the affair. I have heard so many stories of people who divorced and remained friends saying they still "have love" for each other but just cannot stay married or stay together in a relationship. It didn't make sense to me then, but now it makes soo much sense.
