Treasur's post was fantastic. Count me in with the folks who think your #1 responsibility is to your daughter and not ExH's W/OW. The complicating factor is because your daughter knows what she knows she feels torn between betraying her own factor and the guilt of covering up for him. I've thought about your sitch a good bit and lean towards having her work with an IC and then pulling her dad into a session.
One possibility I haven't seen mentioned...do you think ExH's current W/OW might already know about the affair? The solo trip certainly raised your eyebrows and you've suspected his cheating on her before. Perhaps she's noticed as well and is doing her own spying. It will come out eventually. Not sure the timing works, but that would certainly get little G off the hook so to speak. But maybe it's good life lesson she learn to speak up in her voice anyway.
Anyway...lots of folks thinking of you and wishing you the best navigating through this. You're a great mother and will help her through it, of that everyone here is certain.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
