Single tired female too

[Dawn70]

Thank you, bttrfly, for saying what I was struggling to find a way to say. With all due respect, kml, I totally agree with what Bttrfly just said. Of course Little G is going to take some of the burden herself because that is what kids do, even when they show emotional maturity far beyond their years, just as little G has in this situation. I would not want my children to feel like they were the ones who had to right the ship between their dad and his current wife. It just isn’t a child’s job. Now, if little G wants to tell HIM what she knows with G’s support then I’m all for that, but she has no responsibility to being the one to have to tell her stepmother. Kids do NOT need to be put in the middle of grown folks business. From where I’m reading, G is doing everything she can to keep little G out of the middle while attending to HER emotional and mental needs as they relate to her father. It’s a messed up situation and it is easy for all of us to armchair quarterback it and I am sure we would all handle things differently, as we see best for our child/ren to protect them.

My XH met his current wife through as affair that started emotional and became physical later. I knew fairly early on. To this day, I don’t know if our daughters know and they will never hear it from me. Our situation is different since my daughters are adults and we’re actually adults at the time of the affair but the only way I would ever discuss it with them would be if they came to me first, like little G did with G. Kids of any age just don’t need to be put in the middle of their orients romantic entanglements and subsequent messes.