Hope everyone is doing well. Last 10 days were relatively peaceful.

As far as day to day problems go: Her sleep has been poor because son keeps waking her up earlier than she desires. So she gets into a surly mood and finds a way to blame it on me (I'm not giving her a break). I had already given a solution to the logistics issue (we have a spare room where she can sleep whenever she wants) which she refused to take. I do not react, so these interactions don't escalate.

Yesterday she was in a good mood and wanted to discuss something about R at night. She suddenly showed up to my room.

- She started asking me in interview style to tell her how I have changed relative to the weeks post BD date and relative to my entire life pre-BD. and if those changes are going to be permanent. I'm not inclined to answering these because I don't want to present the answers as if to make a case that she should stay with me.

- She asked me what would I do if she decides to give this marriage a chance. I told her I will figure that out if and when it comes to that. Is that an okay answer?

- She also gave her own interpretation as to why I'm doing these changes - apparently to keep family intact for my son and encouraged me to look at the situation as if our son didn't exist ("what would you do then?"). That I'm manipulating her to stay and so on. I told her I don't need such analysis at this time as I'm happy as I am and I'm not interested in influencing her to stay.

- She also went into the usual soliloquy on why she had to leave me, sending subtle insults my way. I was also working on my computer at this time so intermittently I would press a few keys or scroll. At one point I thought the discussion ended so I started working again. Apparently it had not - I found out when she suddenly jumped out of her lying down position and shouted profanities at me, saying that I'm being dismissive, answering in short phrases and not making eye contact. It was accompanied by "we need to get divorce now", "you are wasting my time" and other caustic sentences. I told her that I do not mean disrespect but at the same time I do not have answers to all her questions and I don't want to answer others; However I'm sensitive to her concerns. To me, this sudden blowout is proof that she is far away from the mentality required for piecing. What do the veterens think about this interaction?

I believe that if she wants to come back she should do it on her own analysis. I do not want to provide her any input or make an explicit case by discussing R issues.

Any insights on the above will be really helpful. Should I talk to her and set some rules on further discussions and that I'm not averse to discussing. If yes, what would these rules be?