There is going to be no right way or wrong way through this. Only YOUR way....
What? Kinda a post of happy platitudes here. But specifically, no wrong way? I can agree with no one right way but I can think of all sorts of wrong ways and they need to be avoided at all costs. Things like this can really shape a child both positively and negatively. Do it the wrong way and the negatives come out.
Hopefully you’ll get a high quality rep from you’re employee assistance program. Some are terrible including one my ex and I were assigned from her healthcare employer when she was dropping the bomb on me. Please have your eyes wide open and don’t hesitate to ask for someone else if you start hearing strange suggestions or getting bad feelings that the counselor is one of the far too many crazy ones out there.
Your D is old enough to hear the truth. Not allowing her the truth will do more harm than good. Somehow she needs to learn she has it backwards. She need not be afraid her dad won’t love her or think highly of her - it’s very much the other way around. Please tell her it’s not her that needs to earn back the trust and love - ITS HER FATHER!!!
Life often has a way of equalizing things. It’s not that you wished it in either of them but they both are likely to now experienced the pain they both heaped on you. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Job one is having little G understand this has nothing to do with her and she’s done nothing wrong. This can be a healthy life learning experience for her if handled the right way - and yes there are right ways to handle it, just as there are wrong ways - all catchy platitudes aside.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
