Single tired female too

[DonH]

Did that make Andrew the affair partner twice over ?

That certainly was the consensus here. There was even an active campaign to have me banned from the forum.

Huh????? WHAT??????????? I must have missed the petition to ban you when this "active campaign" was circulating. Just what are you referring to or talking about? When was there an active campaign to have you banned from this forum, Andrew? Are you having those dreams/nightmares again? Or do I have dementia setting in as I don't at all remember this.

And this was with women who were assuring me that they were d.o.n.e. and had been living apart for multiple years. All verified by the fact that their families were very supportive me me dating them.

One of which went back to her not yet divorced husband - at least according to you. Correct? So just goes to prove what they say and what they do are often not the same. You can spin it however you want to spin it but if she went back to her husband after dumping you, at least for a while, well the point stands for itself.

The larger point is, while dating a still married person is not always adultery or cheating, it's most often not a very smart move for either party - and for good reason. That's why many claim they have rules that they will not date someone who is separated or still married and others have rules that they will not date anyone who has not been divorced for at least a year. Now, whether or not they actually follow these rules for themselves or just tell others they should follow them (rules for thee but not for me) is a whole other discussion and story. Perhaps that's the largest wow here - how someone will say it's not a good idea to date a still married or newly divorced person - right up until they do it and then have just as many reasons why it really was not a bad idea all along.