LH19, thanks again for offering advice. I'm more involved with the kids this summer (I certainly wasn't absentee in any way before, but I've taken more initiative lately to give W "space"). I've gone to a gym for years and don't have a dad body at all, so the 2.0 Doug won't be going from schlub to physical specimen. I've reconnected with old friends and have a fun reunion planned with a college buddy in a couple weeks. I need to get into some new stuff though, to re-forge my identity. W really curtailed my social life early in the marriage.
I've done a lot more around the house as W tends to get overwhelmed with things. Again, not to say I didn't before. I'm working on several 180s, but if you look at what I wrote in response to BL42, I'm not harping on R. The trust thing just feels like an insurmountable obstacle. I definitely would like another relationship down the road, so hopefully I can apply new habits to the future. Might not hurt to read that No More Mr Nice guy book that some tout on this board.
To your point, I need to think about enforcing a bedroom boundary, but if I'm already largely resigned to D, maybe I should just ride things out.
