Running out of steam!

[COG]

Suit,

Thank you for the acknowledgement and inspiration. W and I have come a long way and I agree that we are on the right track.

The last discussion that you and I had about going 100% on the 180's is already helping. I have not asked her to take me back, and have not been pushy. I don't even consider bringing up sex. I am happy, supportive, and friendly, a "strait stick". I don't show disappointment if I am not included in her plans, but am finally able to show a little enthusiasm for her good time without me.

Our conversations are very long, and cover topics like kids, friends, workouts, spiritual topics, her work, my work, and normal adult stuff. I am open to talk when she wants to, and however long she wants to. She told me just two nights ago how nice our conversations are now. I can tell she loves to talk to me. I do a lot more listening and acknowledging her. It feels great for me too. This morning I gave her a hug, and a few minutes later, she initiated one back to me. The dark cloud that used to engulf us just keeps shrinking and shrinking. It's completely gone except for the physical intimacy. She says she wants to feel a certain way towards me before she can be intimate. I hope and pray that new feelings will emerge from our new R.

You really have inspired me, and helped me rise to another level. There are no guaruntees in life, but faith and hope can take us places that we did'nt think we could go.

I will look up RandyH's thread for more insight.

For him, the challenge was to ML

What does ML stand for?

Thank you for the time, the honesty, and genuine concern you have shared with me. This whole painful nightmare has been a great gift to me. I have grown in mind and spirit.

I thank my W for blowing the whistle on our mundane life and M. We, mostly me, were worshipping the gods of career, money, toys, and image. Our/My ego and self centeredness was running, and ruining my life. She rocked my world, and in the process forced me to realize who my first love really is, Jesus Christ. I continually remind myself to see Him in others, and see others through His eyes. It is a very peaceful and joyful way to exist.

Thank you for giving the time and energy to help those of us who are still in the battle. It is a tremendous gift of time and spirit that you are sharing. I hope that I can return the favor to you, or to someone else some day.

God bless you and your family. I will pray for you today.

Thanks,

COG