Don- there has never been a man who has said “you look nice today” and I thought it was creepy. No one has ever said “you are beautiful” and I found it creepy. “You are totally hot” or “super sexy “ when we have not connected on that level is creepy. I hope that explains it.
What I want right now is to enjoy time with someone. I’m not staring ahead at the future. So far he has shown me interest, consistency, ability to plan dates , etc. and it’s funny how the double standard is when a guy does do that he is “desperate and needy” and when they don’t do that they are “emotionally unavailable”
I think it is also assumed that men do the level of research on dating and attraction you do. But most do not. Sometimes they just do whatever is feeling right without paying attention to rule and time tables . Sometimes it backfires, sometimes it works.
He asked me out for brunch Sunday. I accepted. He’s not making or breaking anything by asking and I’m not making or breaking anything for accepting. This doesn’t make either of us desperate. We are just 2 people who enjoy each others company ALOT me don’t feel the need to abide some rules. We like to spend time together.
And he’s, I have followed the “rules” before and the outcome was never any better .
He likes me, I like him. We spend time together . If it was a girlfriend I would do the same. We don’t have a “once a week” rule.
I am in this moment very happy with how things are going.
