There is a creepy way of saying and a respectful way of saying he thinks I’m beautiful
I swear, this is what men in this era have to deal with. It’s even worse in an employed situation. You’re just an idiot male to even hint a co-worker looks nice today. How sad. But the truth is, one woman’s respectful is the next woman’s creepy. It is totally 100% subjective to the two women. But honestly as a guy who has to face this and would like to tell a woman, “wow, you look beautiful,” please explain the difference. How is one creepy and the next not?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I swear we are just 2 people right now having lots of fun hanging out.
And really, there is nothing wrong with that. I think what many of us are seeing and trying to get you to see is the drastic differences between what you say you want and what you say you will and will not do and what you say are dealbreakers or rules… when compared to your actions with the same. You even go as far as to say the very same actions when done by someone else are concerning, and a problem or just flat out wrong, but when you do them it’s somehow different and not a problem.
We are just trying to get you to see what we all see. It’s the wild inconsistency that is in question. HHH is wrong when LH does it and you want no part of it, until you do it. You’ve said over and over this is NOT what you want yet now you defend it and say it is.
What do you really deep down honestly want? I thought from all I’ve read from you that it is one long term committed man with a clear future that puts in the effort - not someone who just wants to HHH. This guy may be nice, may be fun but can only offer HHH.
Constancy. It’s about the lack of consistency. At least that’s what I see.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
