When I say something about a guy, it’s my current impression. I am not an idiot or new at this. I won’t know really who he is until we have been hanging out for a while. When I make a statement about his personality, its a real time observation. I’m still observing continually. Should I really always just date someone thinking they are a piece of poop? No. I give the benefit of the doubt and go from there.
I don’t know why accepting a second date in the same week is going 0-60? Because I didn’t turn him down when I was free and my daughter was away it’s 0-60? Schedules lined up which is never ever easy for me.
Vulnerability : talking about experiences that has shaped him.
How do I know he loves his family. He talks about them very positively, is close with his siblings and his parents. That again is the impression I get. I guess I don’t “know” but then again, I have no reason to not to think he doesn’t .
Isn’t this the stuff you assess for while dating? You talk, get to know eachother and then observe.
Guess what. Anytime I have followed my “rules” it has worked out well either.
Like dating anyone , it will either turn out well, or it won’t . It is what it is . For now, I enjoy spending time with him, he enjoys spending time with me. How do I know his interest is high? I mean, again, I’m not an idiot. He communicates. He asks me out, he plans dates, he thinks I’m beautiful. That’s how you guess someone’s interest level. How do you know the interest level of the woman you are dating LH? I imagine the same way.
And btw, a guy who is attractive , has decent job and car makes them “high status? “ I think it just makes them regular dudes.
I'm all fine with your explanations here but I have a question and hoping you can answer them honestly.
Why are you putting time/effort into someone who believes he needs to be single (which you agree) when you heart wants an honest committed relationship? IF timing is off - why do you bother?
Where you put your effort is where you will see the results and I don't mean dating more. I mean have your wants and needs and if someone has even the smallest thing off.. its "no thanks".
The more time you spend having fun with the wrong guy... the more time you are missing out with the right one.
I know you are frustrated with the dating experience and being single... but G... you are wasting your time with this one. He's just not ready... and you have told us time and again.. you ARE ready for more.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
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