It's a hard task and you seem to have done a pretty good job at it.
Quote: Specifically she fell in love with me because I was handsome, kind, and outgoing, but mostly because I accepted and loved her for who she was.
COG, I feel as though the 180's that you posted address this quite strongly. The only 180 that I'd urge you to ramp up to 100% is the trying to convince her to take you back. You already know that this one doesn't work, besides you must have told her on no unambiguous terms that it is your desire to get back together so she knows. It's a good one to let go.
It's interesting that you mentioned handsome. Physical Attractiveness is, I believe, a BIG thing with women and is listed as one of the 10 emotional needs. It's a huge one for my W as well.
I did a big 180 in making myself more handsome. Because of the bomb, I'd lost alot of weight so I had to get a new wardrobe. Summer was just beginning so I went for closer fitting dark colored tops, designer jeans and diesel footwear. Got rid of the glasses, got a short hairdo, a new chunky watch and started wearing cologne. None of this was out of place for a 40 year old and my friends told me I looked 30. W was drawn to the transformation and started to touch me because she wanted to feel the fabric. One thing led to another and after 6 weeks of concerted DBing, things were happening...fast. Her comments at the time were that I oozed confidence, I was so attractive and she just wanted to tear my new clothes off as soon as the kids went to bed.
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
