Running out of steam!

[COG]

Suit,

So the challenge I put to you COG is for you to articulate what it was that your W fell madly in love with you and what 180's you can do to restore that situation.

I struggled with this. W and I had a wonderfully intimate lunch together at her house today and it finally came to me.

I was far less judgmental of her when we were dating, in fact, I was'nt judgmental at all. I never tried to improve her parenting or her cooking. She was just a very fun gal and good friend to be with and thats how I treated her. I respected her, and was excited about her. I accepted her for who she was and did'nt try to change her. I looked up to her and felt honored that she loved me so much. She sensed that too.

Specifically she fell in love with me because I was handsome, kind, and outgoing, but mostly because I accepted and loved her for who she was. I did'nt try to change her or improve her, I just liked who she was and looked up to her and supported her. I never corrected, argued, or criticized her. I felt and acted happy, not depressed.

I have already done a complete 180 on criticising her cooking. I have done a 90% 180 on fixing her to be a better mom. I have done a 75% 180 on convincing her that it would be best if she CHANGED her mind and took me back. I've done an 90% 180 on fixing things for her, even though she did'nt ask. I have done an 80% 180 on being depressed.

My plan. I am going to continue to do a 180 on being depressed, I am going to be enthusiastic and radiate happiness. I am going to go to 100% on the 180's that I have'nt quite gotten all of. I am going to do a 180 on my belief that she needs to change and improve. Finally, I am going to prove to her that I like her just the way she is.

Clear enough?

COG