Running out of steam!

[COG]

Suit,

Thanks for the response. Well, I have thought about that for a couple of days now. As I recall, she saw me as a strong, energetic, outgoing, funny, and all around nice guy. She was ga ga in love with me. I was an older man at 29, she was 22 when we started dating. I had known her since she was 17. I worked with her mom and thats how we first met. We were friends, went to aerobics class together for awhile then she went off to college. We started dating after she finished. She loved everything about me. She wanted to spend every minute with me, it was almost too much. I had been in a bad R for several years before we started dating so she was a breath of fresh air for me. I was excited and so grateful to have her, but I was sort of on the rebound from the prior R during most of the time we dated and even into the early years of M. She used to say that she was glad my prior GF was such a B because that gave her the opportunity to have me.

Specifically, while we were dating? I did not call her every day. We used to do interesting things together like go on bike rides, swim workout, we even did a triatholon together. I was 18 pounds lighter then, but I'm still in decent shape. Not triatholon form, but she is. We went hog hunting and fishing a few times. I was far more mysterious than I am now. I was a little reluctant to give my all to our R because I was on the rebound.

We are still great partners and have been very successfull at everything we've done together, ie kids, business, personal finances. It's just the spark that continues to elude us. I went back on my palm pilot calendar this morning. She dropped the bomb on me in Oct. of 2000, about 3 1/2 years ago. The first year and a half was a downward spiral. Then we separated and have stayed apart for the past 2 years. The separation helped immensely in relieving the pressure. It has been steady growth since then. Seems like three steps forward and two steps back sometimes. Looking back two years we are in a far more loving and friendly R. My prayers were answered.

I can see my dream may come true if we continue along this line of progress. It's hard to see the incremental day to day improvements, but it's easy and stunning when I look back over the past 3 1/2 years. What do you think? Do you see any similarities between your sitch and mine? How did you handle the waiting? Do you think I should ask HER why she FIL with me?

COG