Single tired female too

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Ginger1,

He has been separated for a few months.

That doesn't seem like very long.

It’s a short term marriage and no children came from it.

Papers are almost signed. He closes on his new place tomorrow.( he was not living with her in the meantime )

That's maybe better.

She was a manipulative binge drinker and abusive when she drank.

Do you know this for sure, or that his side of the story? I know some of what ExW told her family and friends about me, and there were plenty of lies, falsehoods, and exaggerations to justify her actions.

We had a candid open talk last night . He’s not the “I’m free woohoo type” but we both agreed that he does need his time single and to take a breather from everything . We agreed to be friends that kiss, lol. I have decided I am not going to have sex with him and I told him as much and he’s completely understanding . He’s seriously kind sweet and empathetic.
We know timing timing stinks.

Good conversation, but kissing friends usually turns into more pretty quickly as adults.

Anyways, for the men out there. Does he have a good career stay fit and dress nice, and drive a decent car ? Yes. Ia that attractive ? Sure. But the most attractive part of his is his genuinity, not trying to be a certain way because he thinks that’s what women wants. He comes as his self . And we can sniff out when men are trying to be what they think a woman wants to be rather than just being themselves . Vulnerability , honesty, good conversation that goes beyond the surface level. Very attractive. His love for his family is as well.

Good feedback. Thanks for sharing. I think sometimes the career/fitness/style/car come across a lot more quickly than some of the others, but good to hear a woman's perspective on the subject.

I decided I wasn’t going to respond, I was creeped. He sent another text and I blocked him. And then yesterday he tried to send me a facebook friend request.

And yeah ditch him immediately.

^Agreed. That is creepy. No response and block him completely.