Minor update. I have decides I cant be friends with her. Not healthy. I dont want to see or hear of her new boyfriends etc. Seems childish, but just cant do it. The girls and I get alomg fine. They are growing up and doing their own thing. Grand kids will always be able to see me at will.
I made it clear to my W during our sitch that being "friends" was not an option. She dropped the "I hope we can still be friends" card fairly early on. I told her point blank that it wasn't happening. I have a very good relationship with her, relatively, small family, and I think she saw them wanting to still have a relationship with me. And she has a very good relationship with my family and I don't think she wanted to give that up. I see no point in being friends with an EX. If you have kids, being polite and nice to each other is fine, but being friends? Hanging out as such? Too many entanglements there, and someone new in your life would never understand nor trust it (and rightfully so!).
M40, I think you will find your ability move forward is much easier keeping her at arm's length.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
