My husband is in withdrawal. My bomb drop was in October 2019. Moved out in April 2021. He boomerangs back and forth. He comes home 3-4 days a week. We do not communicate. His monster during the pandemic was horrible. I have PTSD. It triggered my own stuff from my mom.
We have a mediation the following Monday. We had a trial last week. He then wrote me horrible texts and emails calling me a user because I asked him to invest in a stock that went through the roof years later. He said it was his money, not mine, henceforth, I am a user.
He came home two days later as nothing happened and walked our dogs and advised me how to handle them better. They are rotts and are very protective. They probably sensed his emotional instability and stepped up for him. They do the same with me when I am down. I have to get myself together when walking them.
He stopped walking our dogs two years ago. He ignores them 90% of the time. His spending time with them is DIFFERENT.
I told him thanks for thinking of caring.
In the court and this past weekend, he actually looked me in the eyes and held it.
One thing we had in common in court, was red eyes. We both cried.
Before this started in 2019 he came to bed and almost under me said, "Sammy, I am afraid of becoming angry like my dad." I was like that will never happen. I didn't know the storm coming.
I am at my witts end.
Not delusional. I know he still loves me. I feel his love. He's having an affair with someone on his job. He's had other affairs. I was in a depression with my dad, and two uncles dying back to back.
I am out and dealing with his stuff. I had to pick my battles.
Not sure what's my question. Maybe I am looking for a magic bullet to get him out of the tunnel.
When he left he was back to being mad at me Sunday.
He has shown signs he wants back in like leaving clues, however, he hasn't ended it with OW.
Can someone explain what late-stage withdrawal looks like and withdrawal into acceptance?
I may be all over the place, excuse me. Wanting to get some out.
