Single tired female

[DonH]

I’ve been more flexible with my hard and fast rules

Yup, violating all the rules

They are not “rules” if they are rarely followed. More like loose guidelines perhaps. I’ve seen where others claim to have “dealbreakers” but continue with the deal even after the dealbreaker has been fully busted.

If one doesn’t follow their own rules when it’s not convenient then they are just words. It’s the actions that count. If you don’t want to follow rules don’t pretend to have them. I’ve seen this a lot with you G. Take it for what it’s worth. I’m not even saying you’re doing anything wrong dating this still married guy. I’m just pointing out you don’t follow rules. You quickly act to do what you want to in the moment and then rationalize it.

The reason to have rules or dealbreakers is to help guide things when emotion takes over. The rules or dealbreakers are created absent of emotion so they will prove clarity when emotions take over. Again, just pointing it out.

Multiple dates and lots and lots of talk right out of the gate. That’s also a very common trait you’ve followed - including the rationalization that the guy is going to be busy so we have to do it this way. I won’t even try to count how many times you’ve said you’re done dating and for sure done OLD. Just words.

But hey it may all work out. And again I’m not saying it’s wrong - just that you often break the rules you claim to have. Should this not work out perhaps not breaking your own rules will be the best course next time.