I went back and read your thread on the Texan. You may want to see if you see a pattern here. This is not intended to judge you and only to help you. How you interpret it, is up to you since you know yourself better than those of us who only know you based on your writings on this board. I wish you the best!
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Date 2 went quite well! Date 3 is Sunday! Yup, violating all the rules and having 3 dates in 8 days. It feels pretty good to know I’m not dead inside and I can feel chemistry again. I also feel really natural and comfortable around him and very much like myself. He puts forth the effort and drives the 45 min to me. Looking at T’s thread, 45 min is a big deal! He even crosses the GW bridge and there is a hefty toll on that one!
As far as “rebound guy” I don’t think that is so accurate. 4 months isn’t 4 weeks. So far we are having a blast getting to know eachother .
Something just feels…. Right. And comfortable and good. I’ve decided to go with it and embrace it while keeping my eyes wide open
Lots of us have a past and a very difficult one at that. The work and healing you do and how you handle stuff is so important. We are all works in progress. Hey, my past traumas and my story might be a red flag to most. Until they know how I handle my sh!t.
I haven’t wanted to be with anyone this in years. The good news is while I’m moving fast, My eyes are wide open.
I truly realize I have been seeing everything in everyone as a red flag because I was scared. I have issues too. Everyone has issues. It boils down to what you can work with and what is a dealbreaker. Carrying baggage well is important . Working together is important .
And when things went south, you had the following quotes which indicate you were in fact emotionally invested and this not working out affected you
Originally Posted by Ginger1
What am I sad for? Back to square one yet again. Sad that I cannot attract a healthy man.
Look,I’m not the hottest woman alive. But I’m not awful on the eyes. I am a professional with a career. A good parent. Very responsible. Good friends and people genuinely like me and trust me . But I also know how to have lots of fun. I’m not the worst catch. I would think I can find a decent human. But no such luck . It’s awfully depressing .
I may always be single. I know this is my fault and I chose to trust too much. I was aware of the red flags, but I trusted. There is only so much you can do.
