Legally separated, in our homes...Part 3

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Mach40,

She digested it , was a little taken aback. But, she went right into planning mode.

I was wondering how'd she'd take it, with her desire to stay friends and go on lunch dates and shared holiday dinners.

I think it will hit her later, much later due to work.

Maybe. Maybe not. Who knows. Just do your thing.

I just needed to move forward.. I am

Good!

I have decides I cant be friends with her. Not healthy.
I dont want to see or hear of her new boyfriends etc.
Seems childish, but just cant do it.

I don't think it's childish. You have to put your self-care first and if it helps your detachment / emotions to have space and not be friends that's completely reasonable. I'm glad it's amicable - not all that common around here - but you don't have to be friends with someone who wants to divorce you.

Do you know she's dating / has a new boyfriend, or are you just saying in theory?

The girls and I get alomg fine. They are growing up and doing their own thing. Grand kids will always be able to see me at will.

Your kids are adults and you've established a relationship with them, and sounds like you have regular access to your grandkids. That's the key.