My son is pushing his limits on a regular basis. I asked him about the pube trimmer. He said him, my daughter, and my Ex were watching shark tank when it came on and he made a joke that he wanted it. He said he was surprised that mom got it for him. In isolation I can take one thing she does and justify it, but when I add it all up it begins to be a lot. Anyhow, I've moved on from that for now and I would say there is a current peace with the ex.
All our accounts have been split except for one old pension that I'm not going to deal with (I worked to split all the accounts and she did not help at all). Her attorney was supposed to provide the QDRO for the pension and hasn't.
I've got all the payments for child support, spousal support, and a loan I owe her set up to be automated - so though I'm aware of all of it, I'm not actually paying them actively.
I'm still angry about all of it, even though I think I'm happier, freer, and have better relationships with the kids. I've done a lot of work over the past two years on connecting with my feelings and though I'd like to move past it (and I continue to work on it), I just feel angry. I assume that will continue for some time.
Things are just harder being divorced - not having a division of labor.
Other than that, I continue to enjoy my freedom. I took the kids on a vacation to Bermuda, which was a lot of fun. And I have some other things coming up.
I'm still trying to figure out how to balance work and kids and my own social life. That is definitely harder, and I know this is an area where most single parents struggle. I'm still trying to figure out how to find success in the area of balance - but that's hard.
Anyhow, it'd been a while. Thought I'd say hello. Kids are doing really good. I'm doing good - just struggling with balance.
