thanks for helping, I read the links and I see myself following the same path. The only difference is that I think I am moving at a faster pace because we still live together. Everyday he makes the comment that we are separated now, yet continues to ML, sleep in our bed, cuddle, shower and hug on the couch etc....
The OW is started to pressure him about living at home and the time he spends with me. He hasn't told me he is ready to try again, he is still obsessed with her, but they are fighting a lot over the past few weeks.
It really helps to see that I am not the only one going through this. I am currently experiencing many of the same emotions - feeling like OW is priority, I am second choice, but I don't feel cheap when we ML cause that means he is with me instead of her, he always initiates it, although I am starting to flirt more.
I too want to push him to make a decision, but I know that I can't, that he is not ready to let go of her yet. I am scared that he will never make a decision until he is forced to. I was planning on waiting another 2 months until questioning him, but I don't know if I will go through with it. How long am I to live in limbo? He dropped the bomb in Jan 04, started seeing OW in Feb 04, I found out in Mar 04, we separated (but still live together) in April 04.
