@BL42, So I've listened to three of Peter Crone's long videos. I've had the time, since I've had a long flight to North America, and now I'm quarantined in a hotel due to COVID
I have to say, he has an interesting viewpoint, a combination of acceptance and CBT. I looked up his bio and he pretty much says that those are is methods.
What I like is is views on problems (you don't have any), resistance is just fighting what is, and what has happened was meant to be, that is why it happened. The most powerful insight I liked, was how a simple perception limits our ability to perform. I heard him three times walk through the concept with a podcast host by stating what does it look like if X doesn't matter and what does it feel like to not have to worry about X. I think he has a knack for doing this, where a typical psychologist will just take a lot longer to get there.
This sort of ties in to what I've been telling myself about viewing my upcoming D as a blessing. But I see what you mean about accepting the screwed up sitch of my D process and STBXW behavior. I think it's the fear of the unknown future, and the fear I can't get rid of her control. Which is not true at all.
Thanks for the tip, I'll continue to listen to some more as I have another 24-hours locked away in a hotel.
