As y’all know, my dating life since my divorce has been - interesting! But one story I think I never told happened a couple years after my ex left, after my first post-divorce boyfriend broke up with me. A much younger guy approached me online (yes, I think he had some Mrs Robinson fantasy) and although it sounds creepy, it wasn’t - he was actually smart, and funny, and sweet, and adorable. We never met in real life (he lived a couple hours away at the time) but for a time we exchanged sexy fantasies and talked about life. Something I’d never done before or since but with him it felt safe and friendly and sexy, not creepy at all.
The sexy stuff stopped when I moved on to a new boyfriend, and he eventually married and moved home to the Midwest. We drifted out of touch for a bit but later he found me on Facebook and friended me. Everything is G rated now, but we have stayed friends and occasionally chat about life. I lost my mom, he lost his dad. We talk about movies (he’s a film editor) , politics, current events. This is an occasional thing, not frequent. We just happened to be chatting last night when the news about Shinzo Abe came out and we talked about that.
Anyway - my point is - if there wasn’t the age gap, and we had met when I was young? I think we would have been crazy about each other, and probably happy together. Instead, we just have this funny, warm friendship and mutual admiration society that anyone else might think is weird. But it’s lovely and one of the nicest things OLD ever brought me.
Being open to new experiences after my divorce has brought me some strange things, but this lovely friendship is one of the nicest strange things.
