WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - 1 Year Divorced (7)

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You may remember I played in a Golf Sim league this past Winter with a friend also going through a separation/D, and we would discuss our experiences and commemorate a bit. He had a tough sitch where he moved out due to concerns of accusations and the judge ruled temporarily to "leave things as is until a hearing" meaning he had not gotten a whole lot of time with the kids even though he is the stable/reasonable party and his lawyer expected him to win primary custody based her actions. Anyway, it's been awhile since we caught up with the league season having ended so I reached out this week and he texted me back saying...he and his W have reconciled!!! I absolutely did not see that one coming. Told him I was surprised to hear it but also glad because if they can work it out it's best for the kids (he has two young children similar ages to mine). Him and his W had Ls negotiating and court dates set and everything and now they're reconciled. Not sure what the future holds there...my guess is they have a good bit of tough work to do if they're going to make it and avoid BD2, but a potentially good story in the present anyway.

Also I've exchanged some texts and had an extended late night conversation with one of my long time friends who's having major difficulty in his marriage. I've known him since HS and his W for 20 years. She's having an EA with an old friend/flame from her hometown. Shady calls & texts...all the cliche red flags. He's relieved that live far away and that it hasn't gotten to PA and also she's ramped up their sex life at home with him...but I warned him based on stories here. Ironically, this is the couple I went away with on a Winter trip with my son soon after BD (which my now-ExW had actually booked for all of us a month or two prior and I was scared to go on because of what was happening), and he and his W especially were SUPER supportive of me and absolutely appalled at my then-W's actions, reaching out to see how I was doing regularly...and now she's in an EA. I'm trying to give him a bit of coaching about strength and respect and not taking comfort in the EA vs. PA. They're off on a family vacation together now with the kids so he says "it's going as well as can be expected", but the vacation is to her hometown so hopefully she' not planning to have him babysit and split out to meet up with this guy. But am definitely concerned for him about where it might be heading. He's a good man and a good father and I don't want to see his family blown up and him go through what we've all experienced.

Anyway, the knowledge that these two cases exist it makes me wonder what else might be going on in the homes of close friends I simply know nothing about but could be starting to boil over...