Thank you both, I certainly didnt plan it, its was spur of the moment. We were in the middle of a school field with bouncy castles and people around, cant imagine it could have gone any other way. She said she was always anxious when she went to my kids swimming lessons and feels it would be good for the kids for us to correspond. I explained that my kids dont really care whether we do, however they do care that mum and dad get on. She said all the right things….in the interest of the children, we all want whats best for them etc. i guess the reality is that i do not want her there, certainly not on my time with the kids. You are right i can’t enforce anything, i have tried to get through to her, however you are right, nothing will change and i dont think she actually gets it, she doesnt have kids of her own. And i have to endure sports day at the kids school tomorrow with her there.
I do have friends with kids that are friends with mine, and your right it’s generally mums who coordinate, so might be easier for me i guess.
The boys are away for 8 days in august and im consodering going to italy for 3 nights with a friend.
