Well, i was very envious knowing that there are people out there who have not met their exs new partner/wife. I also have to accept that my situation is different and that unfortunately H does drag her around everywhere. So today was my day and there was a school event and i was rather surprised to see her there. I felt it was overstepping, so i have asked him why he felt the need to bring her on my day, he just huffed. So i decided to go straight to the problem and an hour or so later when she was standing in her own i have approached her asked he if she felt it was a good idea for her to come. We had a calm discussion, but at one point i referred to H as husband, which raised her eyebrows as she thought we were divorced. I didn’t respond to that, as that would have caused further conflict between H and I and he would have started sending me emotionally abusive txt messages. Speaking to her was nothing to do with H, it was about boundaries and where she stands with my children. And i realised she is just a young girl who is clearly being lied to by H.
