Need advice: wife of 10 years wants out (2)

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Update: I was on a weeklong solo trip, and now I am back. It was awesome.

Glad you had a good trip.

Then she started piling on insults, so I got up and left.

The truth of the first encounter was that I had told her 'Conversation is over" in a firm tone, twice, after I realized that she was getting into insults and judgements. I have conditioned myself to recognize her provocations with time to spare and not to respond.

Good job keeping your composure and not responding emotionally. Sounds like you set a boundary about her insulting you (a good one, imo) and enforced it by telling her the conversation is over and walking away. Nicely done.

Apologies for writing this out here - it has helped me calm down.

No need to apologize...that's exactly what this forum is here for.

I do wonder why I should live with this woman.

IHS is very difficult. My guess is physical separation is going bring you peace.