A lot of people lurk on the site and I think that it is good to have a variety of perspectives. You should continue to contribute. I think that there are good marriages that suffer through affairs. People do hit middle age, become unhappy with their lives, meet an affair partner and fantasticize about a new and exciting life, and then after a couple of years want to go back to their old, stable life. I'm not convinced that it is driven entirely by the state of their marriage. I think that there are other things that might drive someone to have an affair too. People also have an affair, leave, file for divorce, and then stop pursuing the divorce. Then, the person who left starts to treat the person who was left with kindness and respect. From my experience, DB is an excellent path to get back to that point for the LBS if that's what someone is looking for. I have my doubts about reconciling, but I know that you can DB your way back to that point. And even if the LBS decides to get a divorce, it brings you to a good point for post-divorce parenting.
As for everyone's dating life after BD, why does it matter to anyone but them? Everyone's spouse made the decision to leave. People should do what they want.
