You were not in one relationship. And I’m NOT judging about having a child out of wedlock. And I don’t believe being in one relationship since divorce is an issue.
The issue is passing judgement on those who are divorced , dating and chose to have sex , even if it is “just to get off” as long as those 2 parties are protecting themselves and are consenting. Some frown on child out of wedlock , some Frown on safe sex outside of a relationship. It’s not for anyone to judge, that’s all.
And back to the actual thread owner. When we l came here we were left and told our spouses wanted a divorce. We didn’t come here wanting to leave our spouses. If we decide on the process of DB that we don’t want to try to save a marriage that our spouse doesn’t want to save, it doesn’t mean we are pro divorce. It doesn’t put us on a wall away spouse level. Truth be told, it takes 2 people to want to save a marriage. And when the process of trying to save kne when only Party wants to, there is no shame in saving it selves when it takes a toll on us and decide to go through with the divorce our spouse wants
