TT180, it's reasonable for you to decide that a marriage where neither of you has been happy for years is worth saving. 12 years later I have no qualms about divorcing my XW. I believe it was the right choice for me and my kids. Do your best to control your emotions to minimize damage to the co-parenting relationship. If you're in the right, your lawyers will prevail without harsh words. There will be some hard times when IHS ends and you find yourself alone. Hopefully, you'll find your happy single and you'll both find your happy with partners who accept who you are. Self-improvement can only improve those odds.
