WW vs MLCer vs WAS 2

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Jq25,

For many Months I cut off all of the verbal communication with her. To begin with it was strictly about a kid but she turned it 180 degrees by talking about one thing and doing something else. She screwed me multiple times so everything has to have paper trail.

Good. Keep things to email. Gives you a chance to read, review, reflect, and then respond. Short, simple, direct and to business - helps remove the emotions. Plus, like you said...definitely need a record of decisions on finances and kids.

we work in the same Building. We see each other multiple times a day sometimes out eyes meet but that’s about it.

I didn't realize you work in the same building. That's awkward. Same company too, or just building? There have been other posters in the last year or two that had a similar situation. Magnhild in the same school and another poster I forget the name (man?) in the same corporate building. We recommended looking for new employment, both to get distance and because it's an employee's market right now so could lead to a promotion and raise.

Text or eMail 99.99% even that is difficult

Stick to it.

because she is trying to cause pain and confusion both so at the end of the day she can comment that it’s the same as 14 years being married to me I just don’t learn.

She's going to have her narrative. She's resentful and perhaps project her pain and guilt and anger onto you. Try to let it roll off your back, pick your head up, and go smile and live a great life.

I so wanna loose my cool and let my emotions run wild, tell her how I feel

Keep your cool. Stay calm, strong, and in control.

Divorce - L are working on it, I would give her my last pair of [censored] but my L has a different things in mind. He told me It’s in the works.

Good. Rely on your L, or truly works in your best interest.

GAL - I am not in a bar/club scene but I still fill my day with Things to do. Trying to hang out with friend or so called friends.

GAL isn't all bars and clubs. Go on a hike, check out a movie, enroll in a class, join a club, join a gym/yoga class...etc.

Most couples took her side

Why do you think this might be? Any reason besides her stories they would side with her?

hang out with her and her “new BF” Her “new BF” = AP but people think I am on meds, she is too nice of a person to cheat and she told them different story how she met her soul mate.

You're married correct? She's married to you. By definition if she has a BF while married it's an affair.