WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - 1 Year Divorced (7)

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Traveler,

All you need to figure out now is whether she fits into YOUR life.

Fair enough. Thanks for the feedback.

Ginger1,

I can certainly understand how dating with young kids is a daunting task when you look to integrating families . But someone doesn’t just come along and fit into you and your kids every day life. You date someone and you make your relationship about the 2 of you for Atleast the first 6 months. And then you slowly start doing things together. Likely the woman who comes along for you has you had young kids as well. She she isn’t just going to slide into your life. But she will likely understand and may even be going through the 3’s herself or has been there already and gets it. It’s a process to blend families for sure . But make it a long process because no one just becomes an insta family.

You say this, but consider the irony of our Exs! Certainly seems like they slid right into their perfect family life without any transition struggles. That's part of the frustration. Why are we the ones stuck trying to figure out the future?

So don’t borrow trouble from the future yet. When you find someone you want to date, Just date them. And if it’s good and progresses, then you will grow into it.

Point taken, and you're right - why worry about the future problems which may never be issues.