UGH! So creepy! Sounds super toxic guy - glad you escaped all that.
Not quite as terrible as it sounds - he had dysphoric mania. The first couple years we were together he was in a “good patch” so I never knew. He had been treated through his adult life for addiction and looked like a guy working his 12 step program. But he had never been properly diagnosed - as it turned out, he would have episodes of dysphoric mania and use drugs as a way to self-harm. Once the manic episode subsided, in a week or two, the drug use would abruptly stop too. The minute the mania switched off, even if he was still high on drugs, he would return to rational thought about how to pick up the pieces and deal with the fallout.
Unfortunately, by the time the diagnosis became clear, he’d ruined the relationship with other deceitful behaviors (he had a side chick I knew nothing about). He’s had a hard time finding meds that control it although he’s in a good stretch now with seroquel, lithium and therapy. I’ve made it clear we are never getting back together - and moved on to a 3 1/2 year relationship that ended with my partners lung cancer death. But crazy ExBF still loves me and tries to contact me. I have to be very “gray rock” with him. He was however always kind to me.
He did have some weird intuition. I remember once, early on, he guessed something about my exH that I have no idea how he could possibly have guessed, something intimate and private that I’d never shared with another soul. So I think he just had some strong intuition that I was spending the weekend with someone else. Seems eerily common here.
