You sound stronger than most Newbies. I get the sense you're farther along in the process than you realize.
That's kind of you to say. Tbh I signed up for the site when the hurricane began (I read DB after BD#2, but read the forums extensively during BD#1) but it kept saying I needed to email verify my account but I kept never getting an email, so I just read others' stories. It felt miraculous I was able to get onto this site now.
I found reading these forums were so helpful. First in a desperate effort to save my marriage (did all the normal stuff after BD#1, pursuing, pleading, etc) and then ultimately in an effort to save myself and grow for the next person.
I know I've made a ton of mistakes and I own up to that. I didn't prioritize him or the relationship, and got pretty depressed and withdrew. I also acknowledge that he made mistakes as well now whereas at the beginning I blamed myself fully.
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Good you ended the conversation, but how about letting it go to voicemail next time? Or better yet, the voicemail kicks in because you're off having fun or doing something productive and don't even notice he's calling.
He doesn't usually call, he texted asking me to call him. He doesn't usually talk on the phone much.
KML, I think you're right about cakeeating. Everyone keeps saying that. That and him coming over to spend time with me/baby as well. Good idea ending early to say something else to do.
