No such luck

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My daughter tells me that her father is leaving for a 6 day dolor vacation to island of at Maarten next Sunday. Im my head a secretly raged because he cries of poverty when he can do this along with another trip following and then another trip and after they got back from SF in April boils my blood. I am drowning financially, my daughter comes to me for everything and I don’t even know what a vacation is .

Your post-D financial situation is simply not fair. It'd boil my blood as well. You have majority of custody yet ExH pays a pittance in child support? I care for my kids more than ExW yet I pay her mortgage! Your ExH should help his daughter more financially...especially if he can swing multiple vacations like that.

But then. I thought. Is he having an affair ? A 6 day solo vacay to a tropical island ? Something seems fishy. And I wouldn’t put it past him for a second

But unless it’s a guys trip, seems that he wouldn’t be doing it alone. Trust your gut on that one!

Yeah - he's essentially told you in the past that he would be happy having you as a side-chick. As the old joke goes - the man who marries his mistress creates a job opening.

Solo vacation? Unless he’s going fishing with his guy friends - then he’s having an affair. Is it really solo, or with friends but not his wife?

Honestly. I thjng he is cheating. No friends are going with him. He hates fishing. And when I asked him what concert he is going to this Friday, he never answered me . I also think she knows he’s cheating . But won’t say anything. Don’t ask, don’t tell, Turn a blind eye. M

I know you've commented in the past you hope he isn't cheat / break up with OW for the sake of D14's stability, but is it alright if I secretly hope for it for you? That would be great validation for you and the karma he & OW deserve ;-)

I realized recently that I have a habit of swiping left on guys who have “liked” me that I deem to be too good looking, too successful, too much younger than me (anyone with more than a six year age difference), too fit, etc…. If I am really honest with myself, I don’t do this because I think I won’t like them. I do this because I think they won’t like me…at least not longterm. So rather than open myself up to that kind of rejection, I just avoid it altogether.

So people are swiping left on profiles which aren't good enough and ones which are too good? Basically, none of us have a chance! LOL