Well, I shared nothing with the kids. I just got over it for now.
The divorced life is interesting. Definitely ups and downs with the trials of being a single parent. And its worse than that as the values of my Ex more obviously than ever before don't line up with my own.
For example, she bought my 14 year old son a Corona tank top. I just think that 14 year olds shouldn't be sponsoring beers on their clothing, call me old fashioned. I just think it promotes and sends the wrong kind of message to the child as well as peers and other parents.
Then (and this blew my mind) she bought him a pair of underwear from PSD (Pants Saggin Designz). He wanted the ones that had a huge magnum condom on them and I had said no. He thought it was funny and said he would pay for them. I said that it wasn't appropriate. So got him PSD's that have stoned banana's on them. I couldn't even believe it. I mean if it wasn't my kid I would think it was funny, and the cartoon of the stoned banana is funny - but my kid shouldn't own underwear with baked/stoned banana's all over them! What are we doing?!? The design is literally called Banana Spliff - spliff is a term for a joint. Again, he is 14.
I decided to send her an email to call these things out. I know kids at that age are watching stuff that has drinking, sex, and drugs in it. And I know their music has this stuff in it. But I feel like parents buying these kinds of things promotes this kind of activity.
Between this and the pubic hair trimmer she bought him for Christmas (the lawn mower 4.0 - he was 13 at the time)- literally on the birthday of Jesus, I just don't know what to do with my Ex. It makes me feel sick. I mean with the pubic hair trimmer, he doesn't even have pubes - not to mention he has no need to groom himself, no one should be down there!!!!!
And throw all of this in with the normal challenges of being a single parent, especially during summer vacation; and the normal challenges of trying to raise a 14 year old boy who is exploring his boundaries (and don't forget I have an 11 year old daughter and a job to do and the house to take care; I'm struggling with it all - feeling really overwhelmed and frustrated).
