Newborn, welcome the board and sorry you are going through this.
I have a question. But I tend to be very direct, and my direct approach isn't for everyone. So I will qualify this question by saying that if you do not like the question then you do not have to answer it. If the question upsets you, feel free to let me know and I will be glad to refrain from commenting further.
So here is the question: Did you get pregnant in an effort to get him to straighten up and stay?
I think this is an important question because it speaks to how well you understand DBing and the the things you should or should not be doing. For instance, you were fed up and moved out, but then you also express struggling to move on. This man has been pretty clear about what he does and doesn't want, and that seems to be untenable to you, but yet you still seem unwilling to just move forward with your life and let him decide what he wants. I know feelings get in the way of clarity at times, and I am not a woman, but if a man I was married to pressured me to abort our child, personally for me that is a bridge too far. You are young, you have a lot of life ahead of you, there is no reason to wait around for a guy that is so obviously flaking. I mean astrology? REALLY? How anyone puts any stock into something like that is so far beyond me that I cannot even fathom it!
So one last question: at this point what are struggling to move on from? A guy that has feelings for someone else? A guy that tried to control you throughout your pregnancy? A guy that is so desperate to find meaning in life that he is grasping at straws (which is literally what astrology is!).
You've done the heavy-lifting here, so what is the last thing or things that isare preventing you from moving forward?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
