Still not divorced

[BL42]

Your lucky in that sense, H and OW are literally joined at the hip, in the 2 years he hasnt ever gone anywhere with the kids without her. She religiously comes to the kids lessons, which I personally find odd, but here we go.

Not sure any of us are "lucky" LOL, but agreed. It must be upsetting to have it throw in your face every time you go one of your sons' activities.

In terms of GAL, we continue doing a lot with the kids,

The kids should be #1 for sure, but don't forget yourself.

i find i need downtime after work and when they aren’t here because of everything that’s going on.

Same here. I completely understand that.

I have come off dating apps, i just don't think i can do it.

Understandable. I signed up only after my D and am thinking off dropping them for awhile.

I do get lonely sometimes and when H is being horrible i do miss having someone just for a sense of safety. My family is in a different country, so im literally on my own here.

That's tough. I can relate to the lonely part, but am fortunate to have family supporting me close by.

Is OW still the 22yo (now 24yo?) who was living with her parents? I can't remember your age or and H's, but if it's any consolation just based on that it doesn't seem destined to work out between them in the long run. Regardless, remember to focus on your own self care. Your GAL was mostly kid stuff and decompressing. Any exercise, activities, socializing?