No such luck

[LH19]

I don't think men are intimidated by you. There may be some who are, but it has not generally been the case from what I have read on your thread earlier. If anything, I have seen them take advantage of your good nature.

I believe he is talking about Mark here. I can't really think of anyone else who fits this bill.

There are many guys who have their sh1t together. You attracting these men is not the issue. The problem is you being attracted to these me. And I am not the only one who thinks this way. Don gave you similar feedback earlier.

I agree and I also agree it is above our pay grade to know if you are self sabotaging.

If you took an honest look at your past, you could argue that some of them were not truly attracted to you. Some of the men Mach mentions above were probably dysfunctional. But I feel most of them were just playing you till they found something better.

I am not sure what he means here unless he is talking about Mark.

I have not seen your actions be consistent with your words.

This is true. You are done with online dating and waiting until you move for a month then back to online dating.

Your desperation to be in a relationship is obvious and I suspect it comes across to potential partners too.

I think desperation is a tad strong. You have been single mostly the last 14 years. You would like to be a relationship which is understandable.

In my opinion you are looking for a 'happy ever after' and want it quickly, whether you realize it or not.

This I agree with. It is like you have an internal clock.

Your desperation is why you moved too quickly with the Texan.

I disagree here. I think you moved quickly because he did and you liked him.

If I recollect, there was another person (E?) you broke up with because you felt 'he listens to his kids too much. To me, someone prioritizing the opinion or wishes of their teenage kids over someone they have known for a few weeks is a sign of good character. It is possible he tried to sugar coat things to avoid offending you, but it's not hard to guess the real reason.

You definitely do not like passive nice guys.

If you define yourself as a person that is not meant to be single, you put a lot of pressure on yourself and that pressure will translate to your relationships.

We are not wired to be single and most single people are because of choice.

Embrace being single.

Yes!

You have to love yourself first and feel complete without another person.

I believe you have the first part down just not the second part.

Counter intuitive yes, but like DB that's when you will have the best chance of settling down with someone.

Maybe and maybe not.

Second, be self-confident and have high standards but ask yourself whether you are putting yourself on a pedestal.

Are you able to offer the person you are attracted to what they are looking for in a partner? I think we all struggle with understanding attraction.

If you are the prize in a relationship, it is not a relationship of equals which is not good. What you bring to the relationship may not be what the other person values. Focus on whether the other person brings what you value in a relationship and whether you are providing what they value.

Yep. See above.